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Marriages

Today when we were having snacks at office canteen. A newly joined girl in our group( a bunch of friends having the same experience as me, we take lunch and snacks together) told us that she got engaged and soon she'll be getting married. Every other girl were like aw wwwww!!!! woww!!!, show us pictures of him, where is your ring? where will you going to get married? Is it arranged or love? What will you going to wear? Where will you go for honeymoon? Oh! that ghagra is beautiful. Aren't you lucky to get marry near a sea in puri.
And then she said her fiance is from IIT and currently working in a startup and planning to create his own company, everyone's face was just light up and all were like oh wow you are one lucky girl.

There is nothing wrong in this the yet to be bride was happy and every girl was happy listening to her.
But what concerns me that none of the girls asked her these, How good the guy is? What's his nature like? Do you love this guy? Do this guy lov…

Happiness is Rain

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These days are going quite rough for me. I don't understand why life always gives me lemons all the time and I still can't make lemonades out of them. I run for happiness and all I could get is just the same old familiar sadness. Maybe this is all I am doing wrong, I am running for happiness, I should just let it come to me. But then again I ponder that trying is everything if you don't try for something how you are supposed to get it? Maybe I am running for the wrong kind of happiness. Maybe happiness is just in front of me but the one for which I am running could be a fake one.  Then again a voice comes from my think tank, Is life is all about achieving happiness or one can live a beautiful life with sadness also?  Don't you think life is extremely complicated and we waste our whole life understanding it? We even go beyond and try to control it. Somewhere we know that we can't actually understand life but even though we try to understand it, we try to control our l…

Hedgehog's dilemma

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I like this fable a lot. This fable tells us about relationships and how would you describe the best relationship. Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis has used this situation in the fable in his analysis of challenges of human intimacy.
This fable is about the dilemma faced by a group of Hedgehogs (Porcupines).


" It was the coldest winter ever.  Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm.  This way they covered and protected themselves, but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.  After a while, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen.  So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.  Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.  They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the warmth that came fr…