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Hedgehog's dilemma



I like this fable a lot. This fable tells us about relationships and how would you describe the best relationship.  Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis has used this situation in the fable in his analysis of the challenges of human intimacy.
This fable is about the dilemma faced by a group of Hedgehogs (Porcupines).


" It was the coldest winter ever.  Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm.  This way they covered and protected themselves, but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.  After a while, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen.  So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.  Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.  They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the warmth that came from the others.  This way they were able to survive. "

Moral of the story: The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities.

Relationships are complicated, but with love, respect, a sense of understanding about one another and that relationships are indeed complicated and require to do a lot of hard work to make it through, a beautiful Relationship can do wonders for the both individuals.

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